Are you feeling guilty about something? Feeling guilty not only hampers your emotional well-being but also affects your relationship. Guilt is an emotion which makes you feel unimportant and disrupts your thoughts. Broadly speaking, the experts categorise self-guilt as ‘healthy’ and ‘unhealthy’.
Recognising the type of guilt that you’re experiencing is crucial whenever it strikes, because only after that you can address it in the best way possible. Sometimes, we blame ourselves for mistakes we did not commit.
Let us take a look at the ways you can deal with self-guilt and improve your relationship:
• Consider you haven’t done anything wrong
You must admit that your guilt quite often sends you the wrong message. Consider the possibility that, despite your instinctive belief, you haven’t done anything wrong and that, despite your conviction that the other person is angry with you, they aren’t. This will make your relationship with your partner as well as with your own self stronger.
• Work on improving yourself
Although you cannot undo your actions, you can always strive to improve. Working to strengthen specific facets of your personality will help you improve your self-esteem. For some people, this means dealing with serious problems like anger management. If you struggle with anger and hurt your significant other during an angry outburst, you need to work on anger management techniques.
• Learn to forgive yourself for your mistakes
Guilt is a common response when you are aware that you have done something inappropriate. But you shouldn’t feel miserable for the rest of your life. It’s essential to be able to forgive yourself for your mistakes and put the past behind you. Express remorse as soon as you can to show your partner that you care.
• Understand that it’s okay to make mistakes
Sometimes you feel guilty because you have set some unrealistic standards for yourself. This can make you feel guilty about things you haven’t done or haven’t done properly, even if it isn’t your fault. Thus, it’s important to understand your worth to have a healthy relationship with your better half.
