Disagreements and fights are inevitable in a relationship. When your life is intertwined with another person’s life, you are bound to disagree on something or the other. From deciding what to eat for dinner to your child’s upbringing, there might arise many conflicts in your life. But that does not mean that you can’t resolve these issues.
You can’t think that these issues are a sign of trouble in your relationship. If you never talk about your problems or never try to solve one, you won’t be able to work out your relationship. Various studies have shown that fighting, in fact, can improve a relationship. Trying to resolve conflicts and making it work can actually build an understanding that works for both of the partners. Here are 5 ways to resolve conflicts for the betterment of your relationship:
Ask and Listen
The main conflict arises when people in a relationship do not listen to each other. They try to prove their own point and think that they must have an upper hand in the argument. But that is not a solution. Do not let the argument smoulder, take hold of the situation and try to put forward your point while listening to your partner.
Be Patient
It’s true that it is difficult to take a break in an argument and think over things. But sometimes, in the heat of the moment, you might end up saying things you don’t mean. However, stopping and taking a look again at the situation might help you fathom things better than when you are in a rage.
Stop Being So Defensive
Compatibility in a relationship rises and falls in direct proportion to how carefully you listen and understand your partner. But this can be difficult when in a fight. The problem starts the moment you get defensive – do not be so defensive when your partner criticises you. This won’t solve any problems as in a relationship it is important to really listen to your partner and consider what they are saying. Reacting to things like these will only make it worse.
Don’t Let Negativity take the Upper Hand
Two wrongs never make a right. So if you respond to bad behaviour with bad behaviour, it won’t do you any good. You must control the urge to respond aggressively to avoid making the conflict worse. If you will reciprocate hate with hate, love will take a back seat and negativity will take over the situation. The longer the conflict, the more negativity it generates. Look at the positive side of things and try resolving an issue.
Know when to call it quits
Take a break from the argument if you see yourself deep in a negative pit. If need be take a break from your hectic life and go somewhere you are not surrounded by the hustle and bustle of life. Even a short break can help your relationship get better. It can calm you down. Do not stretch the argument to the point where you do not even remember why you started fighting in the first place.
The key to managing conflicts and improve a relationship is through controlling your anger and considering your partner’s perspective (really). Resolving conflicts is important in a relationship as when petty things come in between a couple, then understanding and love goes out the door.
