Childhood traumas can often lead to a constant sense of stress, anxiety, mental health issues and fear which can have a negative impact on your relationship with your loved ones. Unresolved trauma can impair communication, intimacy and trust in our relationships. Therefore, it is important to process the trauma in time, feel comfortable in your body and experience love because feeling safe in your body allows you to connect with others.
Some of the common signs that your past trauma is affecting your bond with your partner are a lack of trust, unrealistic expectations, having a negative mindset, feeling defensive, overthinking, Insecurity and Neediness.
Are you the one who feels like this in your current relationship? Well, need not worry as we’re here to help. Here we’ve mentioned a few tips that can help you if your trauma is affecting your bond. Take a look:
Communicate
A healthy communication is key to a healthy relationship. Have open, honest and compassionate communication with your partner and share everything about your past traumas. Be mindful of how you express your emotions and frustrations.
Set Boundaries
Talk to each other and set healthy boundaries that respect each other’s needs and limits. Understand clear boundaries and help foster trust and security in a relationship.
Understand Triggers
If your partner has opened up about their past traumas in front of you, gather knowledge about the effect of that trauma and educate yourself. Understanding their experience can help you identify potential trigger points in your partner and develop strategies to manage them. This could avoid several arguments in your relationship.
Seek therapy
Seeking therapy could be one of the effective ways to get over the past traumas. Whether as individuals or as a couple, seeking the advice of a skilled therapist can provide vital skills and insights for healing and growing together.
No need to hurry
There’s no need to rush. As we’re dealing with a mental trauma it’s important for you to take one step at a time. Remember everyone heals at their own speed and in their own way. Take a short break from your work and social life, go on a trip or do activities that make you happy.
Past traumas can create distance, misunderstanding, lack of communication, conflict and can eventually lead to a breakup.
