Dating as an introvert, being in a relationship as an introvert, and the sheer idea of having to interact with someone, I’ve been there. Companionship is important, but so is honoring your own needs. Don’t stress or cancel plans, you have these date ideas for introverts in your back pocket.
Are you an extrovert that wants to approach that introvert who caught your eye or make sure your introvert flourishes in your relationship? Grab your pen, take some notes, and prepare to study up on these dates for introverts.
Introvert Date Nights: Going Out
You can have a wonderful, successful, and low-key introvert date night when you leave the house. I’m here, as an introvert with an even more introverted introvert, to tell you it is possible.
Go Out On Weeknights
Hit the bar, restaurant, or local brewery – but skip the weekend. Instead, head out on a more low-key night during the week.
Check Out Quieter Spots
Skip the hot new spot in town, but only for now. Stick to the ones that aren’t all abuzz, be it on the weekend or weeknights.
Try New Spots for Lunch Instead
Speaking of new spots, weekday lunch dates are underrated! Squeeze in a date over the lunch hour, be it new spots or new-to-you locations.
Hop in the Car
Hit the road and go for a drive, whether to a hiking spot, to comb the beach for shells, or to an ice cream place that’s 30 minutes away. There’s something therapeutic and nonconfrontational about talking without having to keep up all that eye contact. Am I right, introverts?
Go for a Hike
Head to the mountains for a hike or go for an easy hike through the woods. Picnic optional.
Hit Up the Bookstore
Take your introverted bookworm to the bookstore to browse the stacks for their next good read.
Have a Hobby Date on the Town
Whether that hobby is painting, working with clay, or throwing an ax, there’s no reason a hobby can’t make for a good date. That includes fly fishing outings and poetry jams, too.
Wander a Farmer’s Market
Sundays aren’t the only day for the farmer’s market anymore. So many towns and cities have farmer’s markets open during the week, too.
Visit a Small Brewery
Sam Who? Stick to a smaller, less-traveled brewery to enjoy a flight with your date. If you’ve got to check out the big names, go on nights that aren’t as busy.
Head to the Park
If hitting up a hardcore hike doesn’t suit either of you, head to a local park to check out the flora, fauna, and all the Fidos out for walks.
Have an Ice Cream Date
Skip straight to dessert (or start your night with dessert!) with a scoop, cone, or dish of ice cream. Don’t want to deal with long lines? Turn this into a date at home by grabbing a pint at the store and heading home.
Grab Breakfast Together
Whether with a bagel and cream cheese or a full breakfast, hit the cafe, bagel shop, or mom-and-pop for some coffee and food.
See a Movie
Maybe skip opening weekend, or grab a matinee show, so you can quietly whisper during the movie. Or, for those who are firm no-talking during the movie moviegoers, grab some food, a coffee, or a drink to discuss the movie after. Or make fun of it.
Visit a Museum
Go for a stroll among some artwork for a laid-back, quiet, and easygoing date night. Don’t forget the science museum or the planetarium.
Head to the Aquarium or Zoo
If you want your stroll to have something a little more lovely, then check out the zoo or aquarium near you.
Go Bowling, Play Pool, or Visit the Arcade
Pool ball, pool table, or some skee-ball. It makes no difference with a date that gives you an activity other than constant conversation.
Check Out a Comedy Show
Let someone else do the talking. Nothing makes a bond strong like sharing jokes.
Walk Around Town
Whether you park downtown or walk to downtown, explore your local suburbia. Bar hopping or wandering stores not required, but it is optional.
Amusement Park
Grab your water bottles and sneakers, you’re headed to the amusement park. Don’t forget your suit if you’ll be hitting the wave pool.
Hibachi and Sushi Date Night
Sit back and watch someone else do the cooking for you on date night.
Hit the Water With a Kayak or Grab a Bike
Tell them “ILY” with some SPF and an oar and hit the lake shores with some kayaks for a date. Don’t forget hydration and snacks, whether you’re kayaking or hitting the bike trail.
Introvert Date Nights: Staying In
Skip the jeans (they’re a prison anyway) and keep things comfy and cozy with a date night at home. Introverts rejoice.
Ready, Set, Stream Something
You can stream just about anything you’re looking for these days, whether it’s on Netflix or Hulu, a rental from Amazon, or available for purchase on another streaming platform.
Have an Associative Play Date
Just like toddlers, engage in your favorite activity side by side. Reading and video games, journaling and cooking, whatever it is you both enjoy. Quality time doesn’t mean a fruitless conversation tonight.
Enjoy Game Night
Before you head home, swing by the game store – be it video game or toy store. Boot up your Xbox, pull out the Sequence board, count out the Monopoly money, introverts. Game night date night is here.
Have a Hobby Date At Home
Grab your knitting needles, your garden shovel, your cookbooks, your current library book, and bond over your favorite hobbies for an at-home date night.
Have a Coffee at Home Date
Nothing is more classic than a cup of coffee. Whether on the deck, on the couch, next to a fire, or with some ambient sound, take comfort in this at-home date introverts.
Work Out Together
Go for a brisk walk or jog, practice yoga while the other lifts weights, or work through a few reps together.
Make It a Snuggle Date
Hop into your PJs and jump into bed for a snuggle date. This pairs quite well with a streaming service.
Have a Picnic at Home
Don’t worry about forgetting any necessary ingredients with an at-home picnic date night.
What Do You Meme? But Actually
You both live on the internet, so craft your own memes!
Enjoy an At-Home Flight Night
Grab your favorite brews, wine, or amuse-bouche cocktails to create your own perfect flight. Not into booze? You can make a flight of flavored seltzer, soda pop, or even mocktails.
Watch a Lecture or YouTube Video (or Two, or Three)
Tune in to watch someone build a cabin, learn something about aviation, or check out a belated Twitch stream.
Break Out the Lego or a Puzzle
Whether a traditional jigsaw puzzle or a Lego set, work and build together with or without a little background.
Listen to a Podcast
Whether you allow the puzzles of “Hey Riddle Riddle” to tickle your brains, allow the wisdom of Gretchen Rubin to change your life, or learn a thing or two from “Lore,” a podcast is a great way to unwind together with a little spark.
Paint by Numbers Meets Bob Ross
Whether you emulate Bob Ross or grab some easier paint-by-number canvases from the store, paint night meets your couch.
Enjoy Porch or Deck Date Night
With or without some mood lighting, but definitely with citronella candles at least, keep date night local and in the backyard.
Low-Key and Laid-Back Introvert Date Ideas
Take comfort, introverts, these date nights won’t leave you drained for days and skipping out on any future dates. With enough date night ideas to last you a few months until you need to repeat, going on dates has never been easier.
